I may not like your opinion of a particular movie, I may not like the way you talk, I may not like the way the other person dresses. Each one is in a way, has an opinion and a way of seeing and doing things, which vary according to personality, with creation, with culture and with individual references and experiences. But for some themes the hole is further down. Lie, envy, prejudice, intolerance, bigotry, betrayal … These are things that go beyond personal taste or opinion, involves values and affects the lives of everyone around.
In today’s #SemFiltro talk we talk about what we do not really like, what affects our values and life in society. Each of the friends brought their vision of what bothered them the most – and we took advantage of it to complement some of the thinkers who have raised themes throughout history.
The journalist Fabiana Bruno began saying that she does not tolerate a trial: neither to judge nor to be tried.
“Judge not before you judge yourself. Do not judge if you are not ready to be judged” – Bob Marley.
“Our senses do not deceive us. What fools us is our judgment “- Johann Goethe
Already the psychoanalyst Diana Dahre speaks in injustice. You know that thing about saying something you did not do? So this sense of injustice takes Diana out of earnest. “Lack of education too, but the worst of all on this list is being wronged,” he says. And Torrego agrees: “I do not like being wronged. It’s not that I’m always right or that it’s always happening, but I know my truth, I know what I’m doing. Sometimes I would do whatever the people say I do, I wish I had extra time to do what people say I do.
“If you suffer an injustice, console yourself, the real misery is to commit it,” Democritus
“Be silent … do not answer … do not say anything about injustice, do not expose yourself, do not react and maybe you live in peace. After all, it’s not bothering anyone. Maybe you just can not sleep because of the screams that come from within your soul crying out for justice, “Elis Regina.
A little education and a lot of reason
Keli Savieto goes straight to the point. “I am terrified of badly educated people, who stick to the line, rather than the poor …”. But he does not leave aside other points that he does not accept: people who are interested and greedy, besides those who are always right.
“I learned not to try to convince anyone.The work of convincing is a lack of respect, it is an attempt to colonize the other,” Saramago
“Reason is a ruthless sun; she lights up, but blind, “Romain Rolland
But it is Torrego who closes this conversation with a golden key, bringing a theme so hot and current in the conversations, in the conviviality, in the world: empathy.
“We do not see the whole truth, we do not watch the whole scene, we take the part we watch, we judge, and we do not put ourselves in the other person’s place to think ‘what would I do in this situation?'” “If you are not empathetic, you do not have the capacity to make friends, and if you are not empathetic to someone, you are not even to yourself.”
But what, after all, is empathy? It is to put oneself in another’s shoes, to “put on another’s shoes,” as the English phrase says. The poet João Doederlein defines precisely and beautifully.
“It is not feeling for the other, but feeling with the other. When you read the script of another life. It’s being an actor on another stage. ‘It is to understand. It’s not to say “I know how you feel”. That’s when we do not lessen each other’s pain. It is to go down to the bottom of the well and keep company for those who need it. It’s not being a hero, it’s being a friend.
It is knowing how to embrace the soul. ”
The former US president has also put the spotlight on the subject:
“The biggest deficit we have in our society and in the world right now is an empathy deficit. We are in great need of people being able to stand in somebody else’s shoes and see the world through their eyes. ”
The subject is the subject of many studies, as we can imagine, and has already become a book, Empathy – A Handbook for Revolution. The Australian philosopher Roman Krznaric speaks, among other things, about the revolutionary power that could tie it to the world, as revealed in this excerpt from an interview given at the time of the launch.
“If you look at history, empathy has been essential to creating social change. In the 18th century, anti-slavery activists in Europe took people from the population to try to imagine what could be a slave who worked to the death on a sugar plantation in the Caribbean. In other words, they tried to make people empathize with the slaves. This led to a mass social movement and the abolition of slavery in the region. We need to recognize that empathy can create a revolution – not those old fashioned, based on new laws or institutions, but something more fundamental: the revolution of human relations. We need it urgently today. Just think about how far we are entering the skin of future generations, by burning fossil fuels and destroying our only planetary home. We need to make the empathic imaginative leap and put ourselves in the shoes of future generations as a way to motivate ourselves to act on their behavior. ”
And to give due importance to the subject, a museum was created with this focus. The Empathy Museum is in London. Space is dedicated to experiences that develop our ability to look through the eyes of others. That is, empathy. They are conversations, lectures, installations and varied experiences that expose and develop the theme. He has already been to Brazil, the United States, Australia and Siberia. To know more, just visit the official website: