Have you ever heard about the impostor syndrome?
In this E-INSIGHTS we will discover what it is about and how we can identify it in our lives or in the people around us and we have no idea even of the incredibly unstable, low self-esteem, a lot of people are, live in a fake life it´s like a constant need to show what they are not or even more to be what they do not know they are because they are so accustomed to living in a parallel universe, hidden in a fake face mask building a world that they do not distinguish reality from fantasy.
What is the “imposter syndrome” and why do so many people suffer it?
Rubén Torrego and Diana Dahre explore within the human being’s mind one of the most common, exhausting and complicated behaviors if this disorder is not detected in time.
A successful professional career, academic achievements, praise and, despite everything, you still think that everything is due to a series of “good luck shots”, which can disappear at any time?
This disorder is more common than you imagine the statistics reveal that seven out of 10 people have suffered at some time in their lives.
“Millions of women and men around the world, from successful business executives, to brilliant students, artists, like anyone involved in a stable or lonely relationship precisely because of this disorder, each of those millions of people are secretly worried about not being as capable as everyone believes. “
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You are never up to it …
Those who suffer “have the feeling of never being up to par; of not being good enough, competent or capable; of being impostors, a fraud.”
Baida Gil, coach of professional women and researcher. She says that there are two levels: one that disappears with time and experience – and that manifests itself when we feel insecure in the face of a new challenge or job position – and another more serious one, which worsens over time.
“You assume that your success is a matter of luck and you never blame it on your intelligence but on external factors or the fact that you had to work very hard to achieve it,” she explains.
The perception of concepts such as “success”, “work” and “competence” is one of the causative factors of the syndrome.
Four possible sources of origin of the syndrome:
1. Family dynamics during childhood.
“When your brother is ‘the smart one’ and you are ‘the nice one’, or you have pressure to get good grades, very successful parents or you feel that you are the black sheep.”
2. Sex stereotypes.
The impostor syndrome, according to the specialist, is “as frequent in women as in men”, although until recently it was thought to occur mainly in women due to “messages of success and failure in society” and “pressure before being a mother and, at the same time, a successful professional. “
3. Salary differences.
“The reality of women in the professional world” is also a cause of this syndrome.
4. Perception of success, failure and competence.
“People who suffer from the syndrome are very demanding of themselves and have a list of requirements that are practically impossible to carry out.”
How does it affect your working life?
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According to Baida, the “impostor syndrome” can have repercussions on the professional career of those who suffer from it.
“They don’t take risks or dare to ask for a promotion because they are afraid of not living up to it, so they work below their potential,” he says.
“It also increases your stress levels and affects your productivity because you often postpone tasks or work too hard to justify that your success is due to hard work and not your talent.”
If you feel reflected in that situation, the best thing you can do is start thanking the next time they give you a compliment.
“Without giving excuses, without justifying you. Simply thanking.”
The most normal thing is that over time your sensation disappears, but, if not, it would be good for you to “investigate more on the subject, recognize the rules that you demand yourself and change the internal patterns every time you face a stress situation. “
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