The challenges and contradictions conceived in a polyamorous marriage demand special attention on its implications, if this “trend” is growing, it is undoubtedly based on a social reality and its transformations and has a human foundation resulting from political, economic and political forces. cultural
It is not by chance that Freud and Psychoanalysis develop in a period of great social, cultural, and scientific changes, opening the way for an integrating interpretation of the human being.
Freud was a researcher on love and emotional relationships, during his extensive clinical experience, he questioned a lot about the love life of the human being: “Freud describes the process of sexualization / human subjectification, as an attempt to converge the drives Child sexual (perverse polymorphous) to an adult genital organization.
Freud is dedicated to explaining the different series and variations of the behaviors that he names as “inverted”.
He begins by referring to the myth of the division of the human being in two, in which man and woman yearn to unite again in love.
The issue of zeal has been inserted by the need to address a topic that is much discussed by psychoanalysts and by people who live or examine a love relationship with multiple partners (Freud in 1922 makes a distinction between three types of jealousy, competitive or normal, the projected and the delirious).
The word polyamory is a neologism coming from the Greek and Latin linguistic junction. The poly comes from the Greek meaning many, amore from the Latin means love. The following conditions are considered essential to the conceptualization of the term polyamory and polyamory relations:
• Multiple love relationships.
• Openness, openness and honesty among the members of a relationship.
• Sexual relations or not.
• Different degrees of intimacy depending on your partner.
Always heterosexuality has been seen socially and psychologically as the possibility of exhibiting the totality of human experience, considering that every time the sexual option of each individual, whether heterosexual, homosexual, asexual, bisexual, etc., is more and more open. The above are the most known and accepted almost in all societies today.
“In this way we may have to reconcile ourselves with the idea that it is absolutely impossible to harmonize the clamor of our sexual instinct with the demands of civilization, in which, in consequence of its cultural development, renunciation, suffering, danger of Extinction, the most remote future, can not be avoided by the human race”(Freud, 1912).
The transformations of the relationships between men and women between the nineteenth and twentieth centuries were very significant for the understanding of the decline of marriage. For example, the man from Vitoria was a patriarchal man, always seeking a virtuous and “pure” wife, the purity of women at that time was lit with courage to exercise a submissive, vulnerable, pure and virgin role in society. At the end of the 19th century, conjugal and behavioral sexuality went through a great change, women began to have access to information about their sexuality, the cultured wife was no longer a problem. A new phenomenon between 1930/1950 occurred also in divorce requests, since between 75% and 80% of divorces were required by women in the United States. The term “sexual revolution” has been used since the late 1910s, attributed to Freud by the influence of his studies on sexual liberation and psychosexual issues.
The transformation of monogamy to polyamory must also be interpreted by the perspective of the important areas of anthropology and social science studies. And what was once considered a normal behavior for the man of the time, drastic transformations undergoes its context over time, anthropology reveals that what we consider to be “natural”, based on the order of things, reduces to difficulties and mental habits characteristic of our culture, therefore, it helps us to get rid of our “blindness”, to understand why other cultures / societies can consider it simple and obvious, which for many seems inconceivable or even scandalous.
The polyamorous believes that the constant / obsessive search to find the perfect partner or love, belongs to the logic of monogamous love. That perfect someone belongs to paradigms of the past, the recognition of accepting the limitations and differences of the other is part of the logic of the polyamorist.
Social networks have soaked our lives of computerization, it is proven that social networks have a great impact on the way human beings of the 21st century interact, change emotions and interact. Sublimation is much discussed in social networks by polyamorous, not using exactly that technical term, but through hundreds of discussions that have been observed, the step against monogamous sexual exclusivity is quite evident.
Native Americans, like the Tibetan archetypes, are free spirits who possess sexual gifts that revitalize and heal those who need it. In Greece, Aphrodite the Goddess of Love and Beauty is the most famous example of the archetype of polyamory. Of all the Greek goddesses, she was considered the one with the most lovers, she was never condemned for it, that defines her as if she had transforming and sublime powers, another fundamental characteristic of Aphrodite was not being jealous or possessive, she could freely choose her husbands, lovers, couples. Aphrodite today inspires poets, communicators, artists creativity and unquestionably love itself.
We have to accept that we live today in the century of plurality, formal marriage … heterosexual, for the purpose of family formation, it remains a reference, an important value for many today, other forms of conjugal relationship such as concubinage, or homoafectivas unions are more common nowadays, in that process of “change” of the intimacy, of the values and thoughts, the tendency of the society is to become more and more flexible to accept those new configurations of the loving relations, as is Polyamory.