Although it was funny, there is some truth in this statement. No one likes to have a guilty conscience. It can be one of the most challenging things in your life. You may want to consider how to end this situation.
One way people solve their guilty consciences is by looking at righting mistakes. Sometimes people try to correct mistakes, even when they have not made their own mistakes. But ending such guilt is important, as research indicates that having a guilty conscience can have drastic consequences for the health of your body.
According to a British Psychological Society conference in 2000, people who maintain guilty feelings about smoking, drinking, eating, having sex or watching television may become more susceptible to illness. You would not want to end up going to alcohol treatment centers for example. Research showed that men did not feel so guilty about such behaviors and were less likely to get sick compared to women who cared about the same things.
Psychologist Dr. Geoff Lowe said people would resist more illness if they relaxed and enjoyed certain behaviors as long as those behaviors did not hurt them. “We should focus on the positive things in life,” Lowe said. “If we enjoy simple pleasures that are not harmful to us, we should not feel guilty about them. We should maximize pleasure.”
Lowe added that if you think you will feel guilty about doing something, you may not do it. “Feelings of guilt are useful in moderating harmful behaviors, but we also need a positive boost from regular pleasures to reinforce right behavior,” Lowe said.
6 Signs that you suffer from guilt and probably do not know it
William Shakespeare, the most brilliant psychotherapist who ever treated a patient, described guilt (in Macbeth) as the acute fever of life.
Anyone who has suffered pain of guilt knows that the Bard preached the essence of this psychic malignity.
But the worst of what you feel guilty for, not acknowledging your guilt – and living a life chronically interrupted by it – is far worse in so many ways. What people do not usually know about guilt is that it is double pain: you feel guilty about an error that is not known to people who should be informed about it, yet when you contemplate venting your faults, a feeling of shame kicks and blocks you. It’s one thing to find a wallet, shop with the money and then put it in a mailbox, fearing that someone with an iPhone would shoot your steal, it’s one more to think about what a fuckin ‘S.O.B. you should have done what you did, imagine the unemployed person who will not eat because of what he did and how his children can be brought to live the crime because of what you did.
Freud argued that language slips or accidents were almost always symptoms of repressed guilt that is freed from restraint. In my clinical and coaching experience, I have seen countless talented individuals derailed, denied the long-and-hard-fought successes to attain and disturbed their interpersonal affairs, by their unwillingness or inability to face feelings of guilt. Therefore, this should be examined on a case-by-case basis. What I can do now, before I “accidentally” damage myself further if you have repressed guilt, is to go through the 5 best signs that you are suffering from repressed guilt.
# 6. Professional relationships do not last as long as Wonder Bread Stays Fresh. One of the worst consequences of suppressed guilt is the disruption caused by self-image. When you are able to suppress guilt, you are undoubtedly a legal guy, proud of many things and affable. But when guilt infiltrates your conscience and you are aware of hiding something that embarrasses you, you do not like who you are and you think others see the “damn point” that you can not wash.
In any consistency of professional relationship encompasses a multitude of sins: You may be a maniac, but if you are lovable, people will learn to accept it. Not so, if Monday is quiet, Tuesday, you are retired, on Wednesday you are depressed, and on Thursday you are manic, in essence, a random mood generator. This creates mistrust and no one in the company wants any kind of involvement with someone who can not predict long-term behavior.
# 5. You suffer from “Snooze-and-Lose” syndrome.
It takes a ton of psychic energy to keep feelings of guilt suppressed. One result of that is that you are distracted from work and despise the deer in the headlights that you look at more often than you can justify claiming fatigue, anxiety about the elections or other excuses. When you must be acting boldly, you are trapped at your desk, hampering intrusive thoughts that shoot at you, like a Uzi firing bullets. As you drive that destination, the business continues around you. The result: you are chronically a day late and certainly earning less.
# 4. Your jokes are not fun; They are offensive.
The humor is difficult to handle, because so many different things – from slapstick to Seinfeld – make us laugh. One thing is certain, however: once Plato was the authority in all matters relating to mental health, it was assumed that humor is a manifestation of superiority felt over others less fortunate than ourselves. Guilty people never seem to add the line of blow to their comments and instead, they simply put people down, despite swear that all they wanted was to get a way.
Not everyone is Chris Rock, but if you’re always playing at the expense of someone else and those jokes bomb, blame their feelings of guilt. One of the most primitive defenses to feel ashamed of yourself is an attempt to level the playing field by “seeing” others as contaminated as you. That’s why Grandma always advised: “If you have nothing positive to say, do not say anything.”
# 3. On the other hand, if you explode in response to minimal constructive criticism, blame guilt.
Guilt is a form of self-criticism that can beat your ego as a drummer reaches a tone pitch.
When this happens, you are sore and sensitive, so any slight slight makes you feel as if you are with a gun.
Although what I said was not considered, it did not justify an almost physical attack. I regret that people did not stay long enough for me to say what Tacitus, the former Roman senator advised: “To show resentment in an opprobrium is to recognize that someone may have deserved that.”
# 2. Guilt makes you paranoid.
Shakespeare had another remark about the guilt that repeats: “The guilty mind always holds astonishment, the thief fears every bush of an officer.”
If you are guilty, you are afraid that any and all that you need to handle this are to annoy you. What causes this is projection, another mechanism of psychic defense that can temporarily serve to free him from disturbing feelings: “I am not untrustworthy, that type is a double-action snake.”
# 1. Guilt can sabotage your success.
There is no avoiding it: many people who maintain guilty feelings are not allowed to succeed. One of the main causes of this type of self-destructive behavior, and others, is the reason being that if you are the only punishment for heinous crimes, you not only remove the wind from the sails of those who will gladly tear you administer more benign punishments to begin with. Hating what you did or wanted to do or fantasize about doing can actually knock you over; so much so that to refuse a prize, prize or achievement, seems a small price to pay. The problem with this justice system is that this does not work: you have not yet done what is necessary to resolve the guilt, and probably repeat the cycle of approaching “doing” and then “proceeding”, nauseous advertisement.
The good news is that resolution of guilt, permanently, is a declarative statement and need not involve decades of psychoanalysis. As Oscar Wilde remarked, it is the confession, not the priest, that gives us absolution. Fess-up and you can free yourself from the Sisyphusian hell of pushing that rock up the hill just to “slip” and make it back down, over and over and over.
Feelings of guilt can increase your anxiety and depression. Consider looking at things logically to make sense of them and spreading your feelings of guilt. It may prevent a visit to one of the treatment centers. If these feelings persist, you may want to visit a therapist to sort out your feelings. By making use of the resources available to you, there may be ways for you to find enjoyment in your life.